How To Win Back Your Husband or Wife. Facebook. Google+Pinterest. E- mail. If Anything Works, This Will.“You actually want to stay married to this guy?”She didn’t hesitate a moment. Yes, she wanted to save her marriage. She and her husband were 4. One evening he told her he was in love with his assistant, that he already had a lawyer, and suggested she procure one for herself. At least that last part was different.

Often the abandoning spouse tries to convince the other that he will be nicer in the divorce – and they each could save a lot of money – if she would agree to let his lawyer handle everything. It’s a way to manipulate the outcome and many spouses fall for it, thinking that keeping him (or her) calm provides better opportunities to potentially salvage the marriage. Not so. Making the path to divorce easier may keep the abandoning spouse calmer, but keeping him or her calm shouldn’t be the goal. In my work with marriages over nearly twenty years, I’ve learned that rather than making divorce easier, anyone who wishes to salvage a marriage should make it harder. Much harder. That’s what I told Sally.“If you really want this marriage to work, I’ll guide you through a step- by- step process to save it. If anything works, this will. Understand me clearly, IF anything works, this will.

I can’t guarantee success but it works more than 7. Before sharing with you the steps I guided Sally through, I’ll give you the good news; it worked. It wasn’t easy and didn’t happen overnight, but by doing the right things she created a climate that ultimately led to the saving of her marriage.

Her husband abandoned his lover, returned home, and worked on falling in love with his wife again. That was nearly twenty years ago.

They’re still together and still in love. For the last dozen years I’ve been teaching the same principles to couples who come to my intensive workshop for marriages in crisis. I’ve seen it work with just about any situation you can imagine, not just adultery but also marriages plagued with anger problems, a controlling spouse, disrespect, disinterest, and more. So what advice did I give?

What works if anything will? Here is the short and simplified version. We provide a much more detailed and customized version in our workshop. Accept the Person but Not the Actions. Never accept the sinful actions of another, but try to understand and accept what is behind the sin.

What led the person to those actions? Was it pain? Feelings of neglect or disrespect? Even if you consider it imaginary, accept what your spouse sees has his/her reality and be very open to the possibility that you played a part in causing your spouse to feel the way he/she feels.

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That doesn’t make you the “bad guy” or the other person the “good guy.” It simply makes each of you human beings. Be Ready to Forgive. I regularly see people who work hard to save their marriage and as soon as the spouse turns, the anger overwhelms the spouse trying to save the marriage. At that point he or she doesn’t want to forgive. I’m warning you, don’t try to save your marriage unless you intend to follow through by learning to forgive. That doesn’t make the hurt instantly go away; it makes it possible for it to go away. That also doesn’t mean that you aren’t entitled to know who, what, when and where but that is a delicate matter for each of you that we’ve found often needs a third party or at least a constructive plan.

Such a plan is outlined in my article, “How to Confess An Affair without Losing Your Spouse.” It’s written more for the straying spouse, but it will likely help you understand that this type of conversation needs the right mindset, environment and forethought (maybe even professional help). There are steps that the other person will need to take in order for you to be able to do this to the level necessary to save your marriage long term. But in the short term, while your spouse still wants to leave, you need to find a way to forgive them using a broad stroke.

If your spouse feels he/she is just going to be punished by coming back, it’s very unlikely to happen. STRATEGIESThe next steps are about strategy. In some ways, they’ll act as your secret weapon in winning back your spouse. But you must be confident that they’ll work so that you’ll stick with them even if you feel the urge to do the things you shouldn’t. Like I said at the start of this article, if anything will work, this will. Don’t Pursue. If you beg, whine, cling, or try to manipulate your mate into staying, you push them away faster. Give the other person space to breathe.

If you don’t leave them alone, you aren’t allowing him/her the opportunity to miss you. You probably need to take a step back in order to create a vacuum that the other person will see and feel. Don’t be rude or mean but don’t make them feel that they are all you’ve got. Make yourself scarce. That’s one of the keys to attraction and that leads us to the next step.

Do the PIESMake yourself attractive physically, intellectually, emotionally, and spiritually. Do it for you but it also will affect the other person.

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I’m not telling you that you have to compete with your spouse’s lover. Simply attempt to be as attractive as you can at your stage in life. Get involved with a local gym, go for walks or bike rides, join a book club, and/or sign up for classes at church. Not only will those things help make you more attractive physically, intellectually, emotionally and spiritually, but they’ll give you things to do and new friends to enjoy to help you resist the urge to pursue or be clingy toward the straying spouse. HAVE FUNNo seriously. If you mope around and sound like Eeyore from Winnie the Pooh, your spouse is not going to want to come back to you.

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Do you want to be around people who are constantly complaining, whining and negative? Do you feel attracted to those types of people? No you don’t. Let your spouse see you having fun. By that I don’t mean that you go over the top or fake it.

Go out with your friends (preferably of the same gender) and have a good time. Watch Revenge Of The Nerds Online Hitfix. Go see a comedy at the movie theater, go to the mall, go to concerts- just have fun. Even if your spouse is not there to see, it’s possible that he/she will hear about it. Or maybe they’ll call about something and you’re too busy having fun to talk (that’s a good thing because it shows them that you have a life and a world that doesn’t revolve around them).

At the very least you’ll be making yourself a more fun and attractive person. One final thing to keep in mind on this strategy step is that if you’re having fun, you’re probably doing the other things right too. Do the Work. It isn’t easy to put a marriage back together, but the Love.

Path works. If you do the things mentioned above to stay on the path, you’ll likely pull your spouse back to walking the path with you. It’s important to limit your panic. Do your best to stay cool, calm and collected so that you can focus on what you need to do to apply the strategies mentioned in this article.

There are other strategies that I might be able to provide in future articles but because of their complexity, I don’t have the space or time at the moment. If your marriage is in danger of separation or divorce, call us at (8. Marriage Helper 9. Our success rate over the last decade is saving three out of four marriages, even when adultery, porn, anger, or other things have deeply hurt the relationship!